November 2, 2021 at 9:41 pm

First of all, I want to say that this reflection shows how much self awareness you have and create space for nurture. My specialization is not relationship but I recognize patterns in my practice and work a lot with narrative therapy. A good way i suggest to my clients is to look at your story and your partner’s story because often while being interconnected, the narratives exist on their own subjectively for each one too. Another way to look at it is if there are any fictional characters ex of yours resembles. I remember in a previous relationship one of my ex was extremely similar to an adult version of Ponyboy  he is a character with like many contradictions- this sort of helped me look at my beau with some distance- of course it is not fool proof but has its own perks when done critically